Seven Tired Introverts Walk Into a Bar

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Wow! When it rains, it pours. Lots of ideas for writing here, folks, and not so much time to do it. Here I go, putting on my pants one day at a time.

So, this morning, there was this, which is a write up from a friend of mine who attended the same workshop I did last weekend, and he talks about the conundrum of introversion. And then, there's this.

Terribly ironic that several people who are introverted made the decision to get together and talk to one another about, you know, something, and pretty much spent all of their time together, but I digress. But the salient point here is that a bunch of introverts got together, stayed together a lot, and then the introverted bits started affecting how things occurred. Sensitivities were activated. Feelings were hurt.

I don't mean to imply introversion was the root of the problem. Many of us were tired, and you know, I'm not the most socially ept of people myself.

And I got to thinking, well, yeah. This happens. And well, yeah, it doesn't work out that people always deal with things with a measured, mature response, especially people who have a background of difficulty with such things. People can't always do that. And yeah, then there's the insecurity of how do you deal with this, and how do you repair what's occurred and so on and so forth. And there's interpersonal complexity for both participants. There's also how much each party is vested in the other, and so on.

How do you make the decisions to mend fences? To be honest? To realize the difficulty is with you? To identify when the difficulty is not with you? And when to let things alone?

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